Defining the broad extent of grief- how common is it?
Grief is the normal and natural emotional response to change or loss of any kind – death, divorce, moving, financial changes, health changes, relationship changes and on and on… Grief is also the result of unmet hopes, dreams and expectations and the loss of intangible concepts such as safety, trust, security, respect, faith… and hope. Grief is universal. All of us have experienced grief throughout our lives, as a result of many changes and losses. But we are not well prepared to really handle, manage or recover from the emotional impact which result from these changes and losses.
How does the Grief Recovery Method help achieve recovery?
It's a step by step process – an “action program” - for unlocking and respecting the emotional experience of grief – both the immediate or presenting grief issues – and those that may have been holding us captive for years. Often, the most recent or presenting loss is actually made more difficult by related experiences from our past which were not recognized or addressed at the time – adding weight to the grief resulting from the current loss.
Why are we so ill-prepared to recover from our grief?
Just as our grief is universal, the ineffective ways of dealing with it are also pretty universal. Often, the way we manage our grief is the same – or similar to – the ways our parents and other key figures in our lives have managed theirs...in fact, sometimes for many generations.
Grief is an emotional response – yet often we try to ease our grief by using intellectual tools – we try to “figure it out,” “solve it” or “understand” it. Just as if we were asked to paint a room, but were only given a hammer and a screw driver, we cannot accomplish the task of recovering from grief with inappropriate tools.
People say you have to let go and move on in your life, but they don’t tell you what you need to do to accomplish that. The Grief Recovery Method® not only makes that possible, it provides step-by step guidance and mentoring to ensure that it happens.